This week I chose to read about how parents are clinging and involving themselves more in their children’s lives, so much so that they do so even in adulthood. For generations, young adults were expected to graduate high school, move out of their house, and live life on their own. They were to become successful and dependent, and eventually have families of their own. Once they moved out of their parents house, parents no longer really had any obligation to be around a whole lot. In today’s society, young adults are still expected to go out into the world and succeed, but not alone. Today, more and more parents are involving themselves in their children’s lives well into adulthood. Of course, this can be either really good or really bad. There are some adult children who enjoy being smothered by their mom and/or dad, which will unfortunately probably result in the adult child to be dependent on others for everything. Then there are adult children who don’t like their parents being involved in every aspect of their lives, and concerned about them and everything they experience, and simply reject and push away their parents.
1. Buster and Lucille have probably one of the most bizarre, yet so perfectly hilarious relationships depicted of mother and son on television ever. There are always things said in the conversations they have with each other that are creepy and over the top, but I think it’s a great (exaggerated of course) example of parenting adult children. Lucille has such a hold on Buster that she is able to get him to do pretty much anything. Buster is so dependent and influenced by his mother that he has become blinded to the fact that their mother/son dynamic is like no other mother/son relationship ever, and as a result he sheltered and unstable.
2. I believe this article has to do with families in the UK, but it was still worth reading. I found it so interesting that the reason this article is claiming adult children are still living at home is because housing, mortgages, etc. are too expensive. Because they are too expensive, adult children are essentially forced to live with their parents. Of course, for some thing works out, and for others it creates discord in the home. Having parents who are older, with adult children still living at home, traps them and hinders both parties from being able to grow.
http://www.theguardian.com/society/2013/sep/06/parents-grown-up-children-living-home
3. In researching this topic, I found it very interesting that many of the articles state that adult children are residing in their childhood bedrooms. I think the significance of this is that these adult children are basically stuck in a lifestyle that keeps them from growing up. Sure, like the article states, living at home while going to college is a great way to afford higher education, but at what cost? I can guarantee, if you are an adult child living at home, your mom and/or dad are cooking for you, washing you laundry, etc., so one is never able to break free of the child role. I feel like this negatively affects both the child and parent. (Although I suppose I am not one to talk, because I am not afraid to admit that I am still somewhat dependent on my parents at 21)
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/08/01/living-with-parents_n_3690069.html
4. Reading this article, I was able to relate to the involved mother. My mom is not over-involved, she would never contact a professor about grades or anything, but even though I am an adult in college, she was and is very involved in pretty much every aspect of my life still. When I am feeling an kind of discomfort, she is the first to drop everything and help me out. There was a time in my life where she was “fighting my battles” for me, as they say. I get it, parents are worried and concerned about their adult children. That’s normal. But when does it become too much? According to this article, students (presumably adult children) were more likely to be depressed and unhappy with a parent who is too over-bearing and involved in their lives. The people surveyed were actually first-year students, so that is saying a lot. Even kids who are barely starting college, probably some even being away from their parents, are desiring to be more independent and free from their moms and dads control.
http://www.thedoctorwillseeyounow.com/content/womens_health/art3965.html
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